Aspirin+coffee+H20= Hangover Game Plan

Currently, while I write this, I am drinking Angry Orchard. Who knows how I'll be feeling when I wake up. So I figured, in case I need help tomorrow, I would write this blog to remind myself how to take care of a hangover.

(Before you judge too much- it is finals week.)

I have actually had a stroke of luck, in that I have never once had a real tough hangover. But I have definitely had friends who have, and though we may not admit it publicly, I'm sure many of us had a rough encounter with a roommate and alcohol. And sometimes it can be really really frustrating. But if you can remember the acronym CAW than you can help take care of any lingering alcoholic influences that occur.

Coffee
Aspirin
Water

Here's the thing about drinking: its not a bad thing inherently. Heck, even Jesus drank wine to celebrate. But it can get out of hand, and when it does, you need to be careful. Drinking too much is not only extremely unhealthy for you, but it is unfair to the people you live with. I don't know about you, but I have no desire to clean up after a person who is so wasted that they have made themselves sick. CAW can be a trick you use for yourself, but it can also be used to help alleviate the potential aftermath issues of the "the morning after".

If your roommate ever does come home super drunk, encourage them to eat food, drink lots of water, and make them time some aspirin. This simple three step process can take what could have been a disaster of a morning, to a very manageable one. Coffee stimulates the brain, wakes your body up, and the caffeine counters the drosiness of alcohol. Aspirin takes care of the headache, even before it happens. Water... well... its water. Duh. But it genuinely does reduce the negative affects of alcohol.

Next time you take that third beer, or go for the next cocktail, remember that your roommates have to live with you when you get home. Be considerate, don't make them deal with a hangover.

At Death's Door: the Germs Strike Again

Germs. Nasty little creeps that everyone hates. We've all had to live with someone who got sick. My roommates and I get sick more than seems reasonable sometimes. But people handle getting sick differently. Some people (who may or may not be me) tend to get a little whinny and mope on the couch all day. Other people pretend to be fine, pop some ibuprofen, and push themselves to get through the day. But when your roommate gets sick, regardless of how they cope, there are a couple of things you can do to help them. AND there are easy steps to help keep yourself from catching the bug as well. 

Playing "Mom" (or dad) 

1. Offer to Pick Them Up Goods From the Store

This could be anything from Apple Juice to Chicken Noodle Soup. Just the other day, my roommate was hit with a hell of a cold, so myself and another roommate bought NyQuil for her so she didn't have to go out and get it herself. And then a couple days ago, I had a sore throat, and our fourth roommate was kind enough to pick me up some ice cream on his way home. Don't balk at doing a favor for someone. Odds are you'll need a favor one day too. Roommates give a little and take a little. But you'll only get as much as you give. 

2. Firmly Encourage Them to Take Care of Themselves

Some people hate medicine. Some people hate admitting they're too sick to leave the apartment. Other people just hate getting behind on work and don't know when to put the laptop down and just sleep (guilty again). If you notice your roommate isn't properly taking care of themselves, call them out. I can't tell you the number of times one of my roommates has glared at me for not eating well that day, or for not taking enough time to recoop after being sick. It might annoy people a little if you rag on them, but later on, they'll most likely be grateful you encouraged them to stay home and sleep it off. At the very least, at least they know you care.  

3. Be Accommodating to Their Needs

Being sick is miserable. ESPECIALLY when you're far away from home. So if they ask you to turn the music down cause they have a headache, or turn the AC on because they're burning up with fever, just do it. And don't make them feel bad for asking. I get it- we didn't go to college to play parent for someone else. But that doesn't excuse us from caring about the people we live our lives with, nor should it keep us from doing our best to care for them when they need it most. 

Keeping the Germs at Bay 

1. Be Pro-Active  

If someone is sick, for the love of all that is good in this world, do not get up in their face, share food/drinks, or cuddle on the couch. You're asking for it if you do. I mean, you're basically inviting germs to enter your body if you do that. Part of staying healthy is just being smart. It takes a little extra caution and a little more thought, but it'll pay off if you don't catch the death cold during finals week. Or in my apartment's reoccurring dilemma: tech week.   

(All you theater people out there say "amen".) 

2. Clean 

Seriously. If a roommate throws up, wipe down the bathroom with disinfect. Otherwise those germs are gonna attack somebody, no doubt. Doorknobs, sinks, and handles, are the main things that everyone touches. Wipe down the surface areas. It takes two minutes, but killing those germs is worth the time you'll save if you get a 48 hour flu. 

3. V.E.S

Vitamins. Eat. Sleep. Not too complicated. When your roomies are sick, you instantly become more susceptible to illness. You live in the same vicinity. The best thing you can do from an individual standpoint is to make sure you have enough vitamin C in your body (I recommend the gummy ones in the kids aisle), confirm that you're eating a nutritious and balanced diet, including WATER, and sleep at least 8 hours a night. If you know a soldier is going into battle, you don't throw him on the front line without a shield and a sword. You equip him to fight. Do the same for your body when its fighting off germs.        

Collaborating on College Living

I had a blast collaborating with Benjamin Capitano, from dormairbnb, swaping some dorm and roommate advice for our readers. Below is the fun article he published last week. Enjoy!  

APRIL 21, 2016 BY BENJAMIN CAPITANO

Q&A with Dorea Slagle of Rooming in NYC

"Today I had the opportunity to sit down with one of my best friends, Dorea Slagle, to talk to her about her blog, Rooming in NYC. Our blogs are actually pretty similar, with content geared more towards living off campus with roommates post-grad. I was also really excited to sit down with her because she tackles a lot of relational roommate issues but from a female’s perspective.

Benjamin Capitano: Hi Dorea! First, I just want to let you know that I’m a big fan of your blog. I think it’s so interesting how you talk about avoiding roommate conflict. So many people, myself included, overlook the roommate dynamic in favor of things like thinking about cleaning and utilities. They don’t think enough about the humans they live with, and you know humans are at the center of everything we do. But anyways I’m really interested in talking with you about your perspective living in an apartment that is very different from where I have lived. Living in student housing and running an AirBnB meant I was only living with/hosting male guests so I’d like to talk about what it’s like living in a co-ed situation. I also think it’s interesting how you live in an apartment fairly far, I think about an hour, away from campus. So let’s start by talking about how you manage that long commute when you don’t live just walking distance away from campus.

Dorea Slagle: The most important thing to dealing with a long commute is time management. I like to plan my day the night before, like think about if I might need to pack two different types of shoes if I have school, work, or babysitting the next day. I’ll usually pack a lunch the night before since being so far away from home I can’t just run home and grab something to eat.

DS: Now as far as the commute itself is concerned I always, and I mean always, make sure to have headphones with me. I don’t know how people make it through a long commute without headphones. Even though you’re surrounded by people it’s a good time to just plug into your music, be alone, and take a deep breath preparing yourself for the day.

BC: What are three songs you listened to your commute this morning? 

DS: Haha, well that would be Ed Sheeran’s Don’t, Taylor Swift’s 1989 Album, and um.. something broadway. Oh right! Legally Blonde. Haha. It’s really important to have your music saved offline on something like Spotify so when you go underground in the train you don’t lose your tunes when you lose service.

BC: Haha, thanks for that pro-tip. Let’s move more now into the roommate experience itself. In one of your blog posts, you talked about roommates secretly sifting off shampoo. Can you tell me a little more about that and how you should deal with a situation where that’s going on? 

DS: Sometimes it’s a really hard temptation to quietly borrow your roommate’s things. Sometimes it’s like just a few tablespoons of milk for your coffee. I’m definitely guilty of that. But the best thing to do is just to ask ahead of time. I’ve found that roommates are usually willing to let you borrow their things, but you should always just ask ahead of time, or anticipate asking.

BC: In your apartment you live in a co-ed situation. Can you talk about some of the pros and cons to that environment? 

DS: Well there are definitely some pros and some cons. As a woman obviously you’re just going to be a little more reserved.

BC: So, like, no dancing in your underwear? 

DS: Haha, no definitely not that. I think one good thing about that is my stuff more stays in my room and the boys’ stuff stays in theirs. Living with guys and girls has taught me how to interact with both genders because while it’s great to have your girlfriends around for emotional support and those three-hour conversations it’s also great to have guys around who can not only fix things like reaching lightbulbs and do heavy lifting like lifting a bed frame up three flights of stairs. One thing I’ve really appreciated from my guy roommates is getting advice from a guy’s perspective whether it’s asking about a relationship or how I can be more considerate gives me a broader perspective on just interacting with people in general.

BC: I know that one of your roommates has a pretty severe allergy. Could you talk about how you realized they had an allergy and how you work around it? 

DS: Yeah, so what’s funny about that is we all have allergies to something but one of my roommates has an extreme allergic reaction to lavender. And I mean like deathly allergic. You just have to be really serious and proactive about what you buy and always be thinking about what your roommate cannot be around because it’s so much bigger than just a pet peeve; it’s an actual health concern. When I’m out shopping I’ll always look at the tags to make sure there’s no lavender. You’d be surprised just how many cleaning supplies, like those swifter wet mop things, sneak lavender into their scent.

BC: Wow that’s incredible. When I shop I’m usually just thinking about how much it costs, but I’ve never had a roommate where I really had to be that careful regarding allergies. Now I have one more question left and I’m not sure if anyone in your apartment has encountered this yet but if anyone in your apartment were to be in a relationship with someone how do you manage that within the confines of a roommate situation? 

DS: Well that’s actually a pretty common thing. I’ve found that personally it doesn’t become a huge issue and that it’s actually like having over any other guest. You just have to be proactive about asking and being respectful, reminding yourself that this is someone else’s home. There should be certain hours obviously like if it’s going to be later you should always check with your roommates first. We keep a group text so it’s easy to stay on top of keeping everyone informed. The quantity of time is also important. If you have your significant other over all the time then it gets obnoxious. It’s necessary to have your own space and not have guests over.

I’m very lucky in that all of my roommates get along with the person I’m dating so it works out really well but it’s still really important to communicate with your roommates and ask them if they mind them coming over.

BC: So the main point I’m getting out of this question and the conversation as a whole is that communication with your roommates is absolutely key.

DS: Yes! It’s important to just be kind and considerate of your roommates. Communication is one of the most important things you can do not only within the confines of a roommate relationship but within any relationship especially when you live in close quarters. (i.e. NYC) When you live with somebody you see them every day. This isn’t just someone you grab coffee with once a month but someone you see every night when you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up. You see their good days and their bad days. They really become more than just your roommates but your closest friends. That being said, the stakes are really higher because you’re living with someone who truly matters to you and forgetting to communicate or be kind can jeopardize more than just the peace but something much more valuable than that which is friendship."

Thanks for the great article Ben! You can follow Benjamin Capitano at his blog airbnbdorm for advice on ways to save money in college, tips on creating a beautiful environment, and product recommendations for your home. 

Five Simple Ways to Renovate Your Apartment on a Budget!

I'm a college student. I don't know what your experience is with college students, but if you can imagine an empty piggy bank, then you've got the general idea. It can be really hard to renovate an apartment on a tight budget. But your living space is important and you need to enjoy being home. I sat down with fellow blogger, and dear friend, Benjamin Capitano, who was recently featured in a New York Times article about renting out his living space to tourists visiting New York City. Ben has a knack for home decor/style that always leaves his living space looking better than when he moved in. Here are his five simple suggestions for improving the aura and feel of your living space!

1. Lighting

This is, according to Capitano, the most important when it comes to renovating. Lighting affects everything our eyes glance over. It sets a mood and a tone in the room. So his suggestion is to use lights that don't blind you. So fluorescents? Forget it. "It makes any food in your kitchen look unattractive", says Capitano. They're horrid. Get rid of those suckers now. Instead, "purchase under cabinet lighting. Color temperature is a big part of the ambience. Always go with warm lighting." Capitano also pointed out the importance of "directing your light". He says, "Draw the eyes to the nicest parts of the room by spotlighting what's important." 

2. Smell

We all know that there's nothing worse than walking into your home and being hit with a disgusting and unrecognized able odor. And obviously the best fix for this is cleanliness: take out the trash, do the dishes, etc. But you can always take your apartment from smelling "fine", to smelling "heavenly". What's the best way? Some typical options for fragrance renovating might be candles, Febreeze, incense, or the little sticks in the jar that your mom loves. But Capitano has his own recommendation: Bed, Bath, & Body Works "Wallflowers". He shed some light on how this product is both cost effective and exciting! "They last for about a month, running 24 hours a day. That's a lot longer than a typical candle can burn. They're only five dollars, and Bed, Bath, & Beyond has really well designed smells that change seasonly, which keeps your apartment fresh from January to Christmas." 

3. Painting Old Furniture 

Some people think in order to have furniture that looks like a set, you need to buy a $699 set from a retail store. But you don't! If you are buying furniture on Craigslist, or you already own cheaper pieces that don't match, choose a color, go to Home Depot, and grab a gallon of semi-gloss paint. It'll cost you $23 and by the end of the day, your cabinets, table, desk, and dresser can all be mahogany, chocolate brown, black, or Ben's personal favorite- pearl white. "You take a day to paint everything the same color and then suddenly you have matching furniture! Everything looks nicer, like its meant to belong in the same room. I highly recommend doing this to renovate your apartment setting if you don't want to blow a couple hundred bucks."  

4. Rasterbate

"Rasterbate," says Capitano. What the heck is that? I had to ask the same question. Raster bating is when you create a giant wall sized mural out of 8xll photos. (See image below for reference.) It's an incredible way to open up a room and create an environment that feels coherent with your personality. How can you do this? Capitano shares, "The website 'The Rasterbater' allows you to upload a picture, and it will send you a PDF file with your image broken up into pieces. I recommend paying to print each page at a place like Staples because buying ink yourself is expensive. Then you take the individual pictures home and put them on a wall. It's eye catching. I promise the mural will be the first thing people look at when they walk into the room. I choose an old shot of a Manhattan map, because I lived in an old building in the city. Anything you can use as a poster, you could use to raster bate. Whatever you want your space to represent!"

5. Throw Away and Feng Shui 

This is perhaps the most simple piece of advice. Capitano says: "Basically the basic principle is that it is very easy to acquire too much clutter. Its important to constantly purge ourselves of all the clutter that weighs us down. Doing so opens up the room, and allows you to arrange the elements in your space to create a better energy that flows." People collect trinkets, photos, clothes, letters, playbills, holiday decor, and suddenly your home is full of old junk that you don't really need. When your apartment is free of useless "stuff" you naturally design a space of peace, simplicity, and order that is mentally and emotionally encouraging. 

Summary: 
The energy and atmosphere you create in your apartment can have a drastic impact on your attitude and your level of comfort. You and your roommates need to establish a way of creating that space for one another, but it has to be done together. Thanks to Benjamin Capitano for joining me this week to offer some advice on apartment living! If you'd like to see more of Capitano's work, check out Ben's blog here!

Do you have tips on how to improve an apartment on a budget? Comment below and give us your feedback!

Ice-cream, Kleenexes, and a Bottle of Wine

Disclaimer: Guys, before you check out on me because this seem's like a woman's post, keep in mind that this is chalk full of valuable clues on how to handle your girlfriend. Just saying.

Anyways! So, here's the thing- I didn't grow up with sisters. I have two brothers (whom I love dearly) that made it easier to be more of a tom-boy growing up. I actually used to get in trouble for wrestling with the boys in the church yard... buuuuut that's another story! I think its because of the fact that I only have brothers, that having girl roommates means so much to me. Cause honestly, they're the closest thing to sisters I've probably ever had. We have our fights. We definitely don't always get along. But at the end of the day, I know they have my back, and hopefully they know that I have theirs. Which is why this post is dedicated to both of them. It's about the formula every woman knows all too well...

 Ice-cream + Kleenexes + a Bottle of Wine = Fixing the Problem

If you want to have the best relationship with your roommates as possible, its good to know how to handle the tough days. Believe me, whether you're in college, post-grad, or just moving to a big city to start a new job, there will be moments where you are punched in the gut (metaphorically speaking of course). My girls have been amazing at this. They know when I've had a hard day. And when I'm not willing to just sit down and word vomit right away, they usually coax it out of me. Just last week one of them said to me, "Dorea. You came home, didn't say a word, you're moping, and you just started furiously cleaning your bedroom. What's wrong?" 

Everyone deals with frustration differently. But I have found there to be three practical stages to processing with your roomies:

Step 1: Acknowledge the Problem (Ice-Cream)

When you notice your roommate is really upset, grab a tub of Ben & Jerry's half baked ice-cream and settle into a comfy position on the couch to talk. Sometimes people don't really feel like talking when they're angry or hurt. But if you can get them to open up about what's bothering them, it'll help them work through the issue and it gives you the insight to help as best as possible. Sometimes people just need to know you're willing to listen. Even if it is a twenty minute rant (hence the snack)! 

Step 2. Let it Out (Kleenexes) 

Occasionally, the tears will just appear out of nowhere- and that's kind of terrifying. But usually it takes girls time to figure out what's really bothering them. So they'll talk for fifteen minutes about things that don't really make sense. They may seem kind of sporadic and irrational. But then they'll point out one very specific thing, and more often than not, its pretty simple. Then they'll start to cry, and its best just to have the kleenex box on hand. It saves you the awkward scramble of trying to find something for them to wipe their nose on. Seriously. I carry a travel pack at all times. 

Step 3. Move On (Wine)

After they have ranted, raved, cried, and possibly broken something small, you need to help your roommate put their frustration to rest. It's great to process things that upset us! It's bad to refuse to let go of those frustrations. Temporarily dwelling on problems is healthy. Refusing to walk away from them? Not so much. Crack open that 2002 bottle of Chardonnay, pour a glass, and put on a movie. Relaxing and doing something fun reminds her that she has plenty of things to take joy in. It's a great way to bring perspective, without making her feel like you're pushing her to "just get over it".

Of course we all have our dramatic Rachel Green moments. It's really ok. Let your roommates feel what they need to. Just help them to address their emotions, work through them, and then resolve them. So when you go to the store Saturday, you should have three items on your shopping list... 

Right? Right. 

"Be Our Guest!"

"Be our guest. Be our guest. Put our service to the test!"

Or.... Not. 

We all know and love the lively hosts of Disney's Beauty & the Beast. Unfortunately, we aren't all as good as Lumiere and Ms. Potts. Most of us can't afford to play host 24 hours a day. So when you invite guests to stay at your place, keep in mind that they aren't just going to be staying in your home. You have roommates and it's their home too. They can't be responsible for entertaining people they don't know. Just like we have to be considerate of our roomies, so should our guests be aware that their choices affect people around them. 

For starters, don't take everyone by surprise. The worst thing in the world is coming home to what should be your private space, and finding a complete stranger sitting on your couch. "Um... Excuse me Sir... Who are you?" If you want to have someone over, whether it's for dinner or a whole weekend, clear it with people first. For all you know, your roomie has to get up at 5am for a big exam, and it's not a good night for people to be making lots of noise in the living room. Group texts make avoiding this problem super easy. You know the whole. "Don't ask for permission, ask for forgiveness" concept? Yeah, no. Not when it comes to the people you're living with. That's just asking for a fight. 

Once you've gotten the ok for the guest to come over, ya gotta talk etiquette with them. There are few things that frustrate people more than a rude visitor. So help your guest out. Brief them on the general rules of the apartment, so they know what to expect. Show them the trash can and the dishwasher, and let them know how they can help keep things tidy in the communal areas. And if they're staying overnight, show them what stuff is yours- ESPECIALLY in the kitchen. Let them know that the delicious chocolate chip cookies in the cupboard don't belong to you, and by extension them. "Unintended thievery" isn't really acceptable.

It's also always best to inform your guest if there are any "off limits" areas. For example, I am very particular about who sits on my bed. Call it picky if you must, but my nightly slumber is very important to me. One day, I remember coming home and a roommate's guest was not only sitting on my bed with a beer in hand, but had tons of clothes draped on it. (This roommate no longer lives in the apartment) It wasn't my roommate who was being disrespectful of my stuff, but because it wasn't explained that the bed space was private, I ended up having to ask the guest to get off my bed.  #awkward 

In a nutshell, your roommates should be willing to let people hang out at the apartment. Having friends over is fun and it can be relaxing to just enjoy your living space with a guest! But make it easy on the roomies to say yes next time you ask.

Bathroom Etiquette

Five people. One bathroom. Yes ladies and gentlemen... One shower. One toilet. One sink.

Talk about a tough scenario. I wish I could tell you that sharing a bathroom always works out, but there have been too many times when I've gotten home late from work, had to pee SO BADLY, and someone else was in the shower. And I know each of my roommates would say the same. For anyone else in a similar situation... I am truly sorry.

But, its a fact we have to deal with. So instead of just complaining, we tried to come up with a system that would cut back on issues. We have the "ask first" policy in our apartment. If we're about to jump in the shower, we simply check in with the roomies to see if anyone needs to use the bathroom before we take it over. This is considerate for others and it also makes it so you don't have to feel rushed during your nightly routine. We've also found its helpful to split up who showers when. Two of us tend to shower in the morning, two at night, and one SUPER late at night. This rotation keeps the hot water allowance spread out, and leaves the bathroom available more.

Then there's the issue of having three girls who all (yes we admit it) need a mirror in the morning. But there's a super easy solution to this. Throw down $20, go to Target, and grab a door mirror! Now, I can just do my hair and makeup in the bedroom instead of needing the bathroom space for twenty minutes. Easy, convenient, efficient. Problem solved.

Now lets get down to the dirt. Literally. There are so many little things that can make a bathroom disgusting. Its really not cool to put everyone in that situation. Girls I beg you, do NOT leave your long, nasty hair strands in the shower drain. Guys, for the love of God, remember to flush. Seriously. And we've all been guilty of leaving a huge glob of dried toothpaste in the sink basin. How do you deal with this? It's actually really easy... don't do it. A person who can't clean up after themselves isn't responsible enough to be paying rent. I know, I know- you grew up with a mom who took care of all that for you. Too bad. Your roommates aren't your parents. So buy some Lysol, take out the trash bag, and learn how to properly wipe down all surfaces. Your roommates will appreciate it and you might find that a clean bathroom makes you feel better too!